Is it a time for a change

Personal Development blog

Whatever we do in our life, whatever we have or want to have, depends on our urge to change. Sometimes it is just a small change, another time it requires big adjustments. Change is an essential part of our personal development and progress. Is it a time for a change for you?

Change is inevitable. Change is constant.” Benjamin Disraeli

Long time ego, there was a time in my life, when I believed that a change is something weak, that people change and “jump from flower to flower” because they cannot appreciate what they have. I felt that when you choose something, you have to stick with it. You have to work hard to keep it going and if you want to change things this means that you give up. I don’t think like this anymore! Now, being wiser and more experienced, I understand that you cannot stay in one moment forever. Life, you and people around change all the time. Little by little we become bit different then we were yesterday. We learn new skills, discover new passions, meet new people with different views on life- these all help us seeing world in a changed light.

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” Gail Sheehy

Change, change, change…

It is all part of our journey. Personal development in action. We cannot stop the progress and just say that we are not interested. If you want it or not, it is inevitable. It is only an illusion that we stay the same. It’s impossible! But why would you like to stay the same if everything else around is evolving?! There is a true power in a change! As long as we make peace with it and embrace this power, it can be a beginning of something big!

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So have a moment to yourself and think about your life. In your mind, go through all areas that are important for you and try to asses if any of them need changes. You will notice that some of them will probably need tiny adjustments and small developments, although some others need more radical modifications.

Think about your family life, work, health, friends, personal growth, money, romantic relationship…

Questions to ask yourself

The best way of assessment is asking yourself some questions that will provoke your thoughts and push you to have a deeper reflection about your way of living, your life choices and your directions. Below I wrote few questions that you could start from. But don’t stop at them. Start your brainstorming. Remember that good questions will bring answers.

  •  Are you happy and fulfilled in all areas of your life? Which area needs your attention most? (check also my post on Wheel of Life exercise)
  • Do you feel like you missing on something? What do you think it is? What change would make it better?
  • Do you sometimes think that you could do more but… you don’t do anything about it because… (fill in with your excuse)? What stops you to make a change?
  • What do you want for yourself? What can you learn and change?
  • What assumptions are you making? What are the facts?
  • What’s possible to do now? What are your choices?
  • What are the best steps forward?

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Quotes for inspiration

“When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.” -Benjamin Franklin

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ― Aristotle

“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” ― Jalaluddin Rumi

“At the center of your being
you have the answer;
you know who you are
and you know what you want.”
― Lao Tzu

“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”- Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

“Dig within. Within is the wellspring of Good; and it is always ready to bubble up, if you just dig.”-  Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“Change begins with the person who wants the change.” ― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

“You don’t realize – the great thing about change is how quickly we get used to it. So I’m not complaining. the more things change, the more they don’t stay the same. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. They might not change everywhere all at once – but there are moments when the impossible becomes the inevitable, and the rest is just a matter of time.”- David Levithan, Wide Awake

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Are you willing to take responsibility for your mistakes — and for the attitudes and actions that led to them?’ Then he said, ‘Are you willing — however begrudgingly — to forgive yourself, and even laugh at yourself?’ And finally, ‘Will you look for value in your experiences, especially the most difficult ones?’ Bottom line, ‘Are you willing to learn from what happened and make changes accordingly?” ― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.”- Farrah Gray

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”- Lao Tzu

“Great results begin with great questions.” – Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

Your turn now

What do you reckon? What a change means for you? Are you happy to look at your life and assess where the changes are needed? Are you ready for them?

Please leave your thoughts and comments below and share your story 🙂

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16 thoughts on “Is it a time for a change

  1. I think change is good for everyone. We all need to get out of our comfort zone and do something that we don’t usually do. I think it helps us mentally so we don’t get into a rut.
    Change doesn’t have to be scary. I go to the shops on a regular basis and when I come back I take a different route just for the change. I look at new things and discover new routes and quicker access to roads so if I am in a traffic jam I know a new way home.
    Why not try something new, what have you got to lose?

  2. Hi Elektra,

    I’ve never been a fan of self-help books in the past but as I get older my attitude is changing.
    Books are a great focus for self-contentment too. I used to read a lot but then as times changed I stopped reading books when the internet took over. I’m going to check out more of your site.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Craig

  3. Hi, Elektra
    A fantastic article about change.
    I loved the image at the top. I love the words saying it starts from inside. I do believe it does. I m myself experiencing a great change in my life now. I am actually in a very happy place today because I managed to change something truly important in my life. It also boosted my self-confidence by doing this.

    I loved all your quotes. Thanks for inspiring me.

    Tove

  4. Great post Elektra! It really got me thinking about the path our life takes and how we are in control of that with the decisions and choices we make. A lot of us are in a routine we just don’t want to break, but a change in a new direction can be a very good thing…who knows what is around the corner.

    1. That is so true Sharon! Sometimes we don’t realize how much better our life could be if we allowed ourselves to make some changes and try new things 🙂

  5. Hi Elektra,

    I love what I’m seeing here. In fact, I’m in the midst of crafting a keynote speech about the Embrace of Change. We spend so much of our lives and burn so much energy trying to control the uncontrollable. Change is constant, always happening with everything whether we accept it or not. We can accept, empower and embrace ourselves to dance with change and affect positive transitions, or tense against the inevitable and make our experience more challenging. I can be honest and say that I did the latter for far too long, but thanks to great resources and encouragement from people like you I’m able to enjoy a much better way.

    Thanks for this. Keep up the great work!

    Kevin

  6. It can be a scary thing to take stock of your life and really think about what’s working and what’s not. Because if you do that, then you have to take action to make a change! Thanks for the article, really gives me a lot to think about!

  7. Great article!
    I think I approach change slightly different as a Christian, but the Bible really teaches that we should be changing as well. The change the Bible teaches is primarily moral (not to get to heaven which is a common misconception, we could never earn our own salvation). I do think there is a definite benefit to what you are saying, though. We all have goals, but without correct changes in our life we will never be able to meet these. Change is hard, but needs to be constant.

    1. Appreciate your comment Sam! I think a change is a beginning of every progress! I don’t think it matters what religion somebody believes in- change, constant improvement, personal growth are things that are essential parts of our personal development.

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