So… you tried and failed… It happens to everyone at some point of our life! Life is not all wins but lows as well. If you are expecting to be a winner the whole life you are here for disappointment. Or maybe you need to re- define the meaning of “the winner” … By recognizing your failures and understanding what massage they give you, you can actually improve your life. So maybe it is a time to embrace your failures…

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.  – J. K. Rowling

imagesEven the most successful people failed at some point at something. The difference between these people and the others is that they use this experience to make their future choices better. Failure is not the end point and the moment you sit down and cry. It should be you reflection moment, turning point. Before every successful story there is a string of tries and errors.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

I made some mistakes in my life- some smaller, some bigger. I guess everyone did… There were some tears and regrets but after I gave myself some “grieving time” I put myself together, took the step back and looked at my failures.

What you do with it is important! What you learned from them is important! That is why I wrote this post. I wanted to let you know how important failures are and that you should really embrace them and get the best from them for your future choices.

3 big reasons why you should celebrate your failures

1. Learn something about yourself, see the failure as part of your evolution.

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” Richard Branson

You have to remove negative emotions that take away your self confidence and self esteem and use the failure as the reason to become more self aware.See the failure as part of your evolution and possible new direction in life. If you failed it means that you actually tried something. You chose action instead of inaction and that is already half of your success! You failed- that’s fine, there will be another trial. Life is full of them and as long as you try you can say you are a winner. Failure gives you a an opportunity to reflect on your actions and expose yourself to new ideas and possible redirection. Use it, reinvent yourself!

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2. “The only real failure in life is the failure to try” said George Bernard Shaw.

You should get empowered by the fact that you tried and by realization who you really are! You have ability to survive and  thrive despite the failure. You should focus not on the failure, but on what you can learn and how you can grow and adapt in positive ways!

images (6)Here are few quotes on this subject to give you some food for thoughts:

“If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative”. Woody Allen

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Michael Jordan

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston S. Churchill

“A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions–as attempts to find out something. Success and failure are for him answers above all.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

3. The moment you are ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens 

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas A. Edison

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So many times people fail by the simple fact that they have stopped trying. Many times they were so close to succeed but lacked this little bit more of patience and  perseverance, just these few inches away from the goal.

I think if we are set to achieve something we need to be ready to give our best and this means trying many times. Not just doing the same thing over and over again without thinking, but constantly adjusting our way and based on different trials and results from them find the best approach.

“If the first plan which you adopt does not work successfully, replace it with a new plan; if this new plan fails to work, replace it in turn with still another, and so on, until you find a plan which does work. Right here is the point at which the majority of men meet with failure, because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.” -Napoleon Hill  “Think and Grow Rich”

Road to success

Road to success is not an easy one and most of us don’t realize how much work goes into it. It never happens overnight and it require lots of sacrifices and hard work. I found this picture on the internet and I thought it is perfect to summarize the success. The picture is called The Iceberg Illusion and shows a success as an iceberg. Such a perfect metaphor! There is small part visible at the surface and that is what people see thinking about success, but there is also much bigger part that is deep under water- not that visible for every day person- which contains all the things like persistence, failure, sacrifice, hard work, dedication and discipline. Have a moment to reflect on it!



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27 thoughts on “Embrace your failures

  1. Hey Elektra!

    Very inspirational post, thanks for sharing 🙂 This great for people who want to start a business but are afraid to fail. I also had doubts in the beginning if I should start blogging or not, but in the end I decided to do it. “The secret ingredient to success is failure” All the best to you in your path to success online 🙂


  2. I truly enjoyed my time on your website, since I am big into self-improvement as well as reading your website has the best of both for me to enjoy.

    Thank You

  3. I love this post and it is so true! I believe that any failure in life teaches us. We learn from our mistakes and it helps us grow into a better person, making us stronger and happier. Everything you wrote is spot on. Great job!

  4. Inspiring words!

    Walt Disney once said, “I think it’s important to have a good hard failure when you’re young. I learned a lot out of that.” So Walt’s behind you!

    I love how you “reframe” failure into an attempt that hasn’t worked yet. And I LOVED how you pointed out that many people give up just as they are about to hit the jackpot. Climbers have talked about this for years: after struggling for so long, finally you just want to give up, where if you keep climbing, you are suddenly at the summit!”

    Very well said, and I hope you inspire many OTHER people to keep striving to achieve their goals.

  5. Hi Elektra,
    this is a very good image. People always see the part that is over the surface but the hard work is under the surfac. We all went to school and most of us get a graduation. Later we only refer on that graduation, but not to the years before with the labor, the tests, the learning and so on. There were a lot of failures but today we see the part which is above the surface and think that it always only this part. It’s good to remember the other part too.

  6. This is a wonderful post and celebrates the road to success via failures, dedication and persistence. The iceberg image is absolutely perfect. I am currently stuck and number three and waiting for that miracle while teetering between busting my butt and hanging my head in disappointment.
    Your article has given me a new breath of life that things will get better and I thank you for that.

  7. Well, first of all, nice post and you certainly have it right. Giving up on something because you have failed, at some point, should never be an option. In fact, the opposite should happen. One should pick themselves up, dust themselves off and learn and grow from the experience. Tragically, this is not always the case.

    I was reading another blog this morning that said some people try so hard and accomplish so much in life and yet they don’t consider themselves to be a success. All because someone told them they would never amount to much. Others quit because the “WORK” is too hard.

    Well, This simply is not true. We all have the capability of success in one form or another and, in a lot of cases, we have to put in a lot of hard work, (like building a profitable website), and, in the end, we discover a lot good things about ourselves, one of which is, “I can do this”. I am discovering that about myself.

    Thanks again for this encouraging and uplifting post.

  8. This is a great post. Thank you. I love the Thomas Edison quote – that’s such a good way to look at our experiences. We tend to judge everything so much. I love personal development books and am excited to know about your site. Best of luck!

  9. Hi Elektra,
    In my opinion, the American Society doesn’t encourage risk-taking and failure is a ‘no no’. Why else would we have “participation trophies” and grade inflation? It seems that we are failure averse, which is a shame. Failure is simply part of the learning process. It doesn’t have to be the end of the story…in fact, it should be the middle, because we should keep trying to reach a goal! I read somewhere recently that the average millionaire reaches millionaire status at age 52 or 53, tried 17 ventures before the one that succeeded and declared bankruptcy and average of 3 times. Isn’t that amazing! They embraced their failures! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the positive side of failures.

    1. So right! What makes people successful is not the luck but hard work and persevering towards the goals they set up, learning an the way from their mistakes/failures! Thanks for your comment Allysa!

  10. Great site Eleh! You offer great guidance to seekers of personal development. Your book reviews are awesome. The message of embracing your failures resonates through all. It is not so easy to hear, but it hits home fast! I hate failing, as do most sane people. Thing is, failure is a great teacher.. It tells us what not to do next time, but you have to pay attention, and not freak out! I recommend your site to anyone who needs references that failure is a guide to success.

    1. Thanks Sam, appreciate your kind comment! That is right- failures are great teachers but you need to pay attention and cannot get discouraged by them!

  11. My granddad used to say ‘If you believe you can you will, if you believe you can’t you won’t.’ Failure can knock you back but only if you let it – many famous authors have collected rejection slips. You just have to refocus, check your offering (in case there’s is something wrong with it) and try again. I think it was Einstein who said that insanity is doning the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Sometimes that is the only sane thing to do, however!

    1. I think what Einstein said is true- doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different result is insane- the key is to learn from your previous attempts and adjust the approach. Just repeating previous failures without learning from them is not a progress. Thanks for your comment DrSarahBrewer!

  12. Howdy,

    Super interesting and insightful article.
    Most people tend to quit before the first obstacle while others feel even more motivated when they need to fight.
    I guess it all depends on how bad we really want something when it comes to accomplishing goals.
    I have failed many times but I always try to search for the light at the end of the tunnel.

    1. Hi Asen, thanks for your comment. If you look at all the high achievers, they have few things in common- never give up, learn from failures and try again 🙂 You have a right attitude, keep it up 🙂

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